Hindsight is 20/20

I am not the smartest person around, but I am not the dumbest either. I am lucky that I listened to the advice of my parents and bypassed a lot of trouble in my younger years. Make no mistake, I wasn't perfect...not by a long shot. I guess what I am saying that I am not one that had to learn the hard way - at least not in the big stuff. I do wish that I could have known a few more things about life while in my 20's. I would love to travel back and have a little talk with myself.....and here is what I would tell me:

You can't please everybody. At some point in your life, you are going to make someone mad. You will hurt people even if it's unintentional. People will think you are not being fair. Just do the best you can.

Sometimes you will win and sometimes you will lose. That is just the way life is.

Worrying. Most of the things that I worried over or got anxious over never came to pass. Pick what should really be a concern and let go of the other "what if's." What is going to happen will happen...and you will just have to deal with it.

Enjoy the weight you are at. I have always been thin most of my adult life, until the last 10 years. I wish I could tell my younger version of myself to enjoy it....because it won't last.

You basically can't change anyone. Most of the time liars will always lie. Gossipers will usually always gossip. Cheaters will usually cheat.

Get rid of negative people in your life. They have a tendency to be contagious, so just avoid them.

At some point, even the people who love you the most can and will disappoint you. It's life and you need to just get over it.

You won't always have your parents. Take notes when they talk about their childhood. Take it all in, because one day, they will be gone and you will regret it not listening as closely as you should have.

The "cool" kids in high school will age just as fast as you. Sometimes, they don't age as well.

All of your decisions will have consequences. Most won't be life changing, but they are still there.

Your babies will grow up fast. Really fast. Enjoy every single moment. Even those moments that are trying at the time. They all become memories.

A clean house won't win you any awards.

Lose the guilt gene.

There is a difference between forgetting and forgiving. Always, always forgive - because forgiveness is good for YOU.

Assume that most people have good intentions. For the most part, most people have no idea that they have offended you or done wrong by you.

Borrow the money if you have to and take your kids to Disney World. I think it needs to be experienced through a kid's eyes.

Your kids will watch you. You are making an impression whether good or bad. Make sure it's a good one.

Not everybody is trustworthy.

Your emotions can make or break you. They are God given, but if you don't control them, they WILL control you.

Take better care of your skin. You are going to have it for a long time.

Most things will pass. No matter how bleak or hopeless it looks, it will pass.

Time really does heal most wounds. Give yourself time to grieve and move on.

You are stronger than you ever thought possible.

As you get older, "stuff" really isn't that important.

Buying a house doesn't make it a home. There really is a difference.

Use your time wisely, because it goes by really, really fast.


Receive my instruction, and not silver; and knowledge rather than choice gold.

Proverbs 8:10